Starting a long distance relationship (LDR) can be very daunting and it can feel like an impossible thing to go through.
Whether you are thinking of beginning a long distance, newly dating long distance or currently in a long distance relationship – you are not alone.
These are the top 10 tips for long distance love. Keep on reading to find out more.
Who will benefit most from these Long Distance Relationship tips?
- Those starting a long distance relationship or those who are thinking of starting one
- If you are spending some time apart from your significant other
- If you are in a long distance relationship
- Maintaining a long distance relationship
- Starting a long distance relationship online
- Long distance friendship
Long Distance Relationship Statistics
- 7 million couples (14-15 million individuals) in the US who consider themselves in a long distance relationship.
- 4.4 million college students (20-40% of all students in some studies) are in LDRs.
- Dating relationships estimated 1 in 7 (14%) were long-distance.
- 23% relative increase in the rate of long-distance marriages between 2000 and 2005 (2.36% of marriages in 2000 and 2.9% of marriages in 2005). 
Rates of Break-up for LDRs Versus Proximal (Close) Relationships (PR) from 5 Studies
- 30% PR and 27% LDR over 6 months
- 21% PR vs 37% LDR over 3 months*
- 35% PR vs. 42% LDR over 6 months*
- 23% PR vs 11% LDR over 6 months
- 25% PR vs. 8% LDR over 1 year
*Not a statistically significant difference (i.e., rates are statistically equal)
This tells us that the first six months of going into a long distance relationship are the most crucial. As you can see, at 6 months the breakup statistic shows 42%.
Now, you realize that long distance relationships are actually quite common.
We have the ability to instantly connect with anyone online. It’s so much easier to stay in touch with your loved ones whether they are 50 meters away or 5000 kilometers away.
Despite being able to keep in touch with loved ones, many people take a lot of criticism when it comes too long distance relationships. Some people think it’s not real or not worth your time.
When you have people that aren’t fond of your business. Just remind yourself whatever you do does not concern them and people will always have their opinions.
You only need to focus on yourself and the relationship not what other people think!
This isn’t a relationship where you will be able to see each other day and it never gets any easier. Long distance relationships may be hard but it also has it sweetest moments that make it all worth your and significant others while.
I have 10 tips to help you maintain a long distance relationship and why it’s not the worst thing in the world.
These tips are purely based on my personal experience. It will help anyone that has their significant other living a few suburbs over to those living in a completely different country.
It is important to keep in regular contact with your significant other. Sometimes both of you will have a super busy day and you won’t be able to talk as much as you normally would. It’s okay, it happens.
When navigating a long distance relationship, it can be hard to balance your real life happenings and finding ample time to communicate with your partner. Eventually, you will find the balance between your real life and communication.
It is important to establish times out of your day to communicate, especially if your other half lives across the world in a different time zone. This can be exceptionally difficult at first. However, with time you will become familiar with what time window both of you are awake and have the ability to talk.
Communicate Creatively and Openly
Sometimes, conversations get a bit boring. You don’t know what to talk about and they don’t know either.
Try and spice up your greetings every morning and night, even the littlest things can help mix up the conversation.
Let them know about your day, even the most mundane of things. Send plenty of snaps, audio clips, and videos. Doing this allows creativity in the way you communicate rather than just texting/messaging.
Set Relationship Expectations – Long Distance Dating Rules
The number one thing people fight about in long distance relationship is the distance. However, close the first is the argument or sometimes tense conversations about expectations.
You need to make to clear from the get-go whether the relationship is exclusive or you’re allowed to see other people. If you are cool with dating other people then let them know, if not then definitely let your partner know.
This will make sure you are not taken by surprise.
You should also set expectations on how much you communicate with one another.
Some people Skype every day, others Skype once a week and text throughout the week. It is important to have that open communication to see what fits your schedule and what is right for you and your partner.
Remember that everyone and their relationship is different, so you need to set some expectations that both of you can happily agree on.
Technology is your best friend
The main reason why there is a higher success rate in long distance relationships is that of the introduction of technology. There are now more things to do in a long distance relationship than there was 50 years ago.
We can message, call, text, send pictures, audio files, and videos. There is always a way to stay connected. We can even go on virtual skype dates!
To keep the relationship creative you can play games online. This is great if you both have a gaming console such as an Xbox or Play Station. If you don’t then that’s okay!
You can also use Facebook messenger mini-games, play online games on your computer or use apps on your phone.
Do mundane things together
To maintain a sense of togetherness try some of these things. You can play a game together, watch a video together, even watch Netflix at the same time. If you’re going on a walk Skype each other and have a chat or even do some online shopping together.
One of my favorite things to do is searching for the next holiday destination together – not only is it fun but makes you super excited to see each other again.
Stay Honest With Each Other
It’s important to always tell your partner how you’re feeling. Hiding your true feelings from your partner is not a good idea. Sooner or later, your feelings bunch up and you feel as though you can’t tell anyone. Your partner is there to listen to you and to help support you. Let them know how your feeling and ask them how they are really doing time from time.
A heart felt conversation is always good to have.
This can sometimes be an awkward conversation, but you need to set a date when you will end your long distance or at least have a date in place for when you will see each other next.
It can be hard for people who are in transitional periods in their life, for instance from college to a graduate job, those who just landed their dream job or any other circumstance that inhibits being with each other.
Setting a date for the next time you will see each other will at least put your mind at ease. It will also allow you to have something to look forward to in the future.
Surprise Your Partner With Letters Or Gifts
Write a letter to your significant other and send it off. Your significant other will really appreciate the letter or gifts you send. Even the littest things can really make their day, espeically if you surprise them.
Keep A Positive Outlook
Making your long distance relationship work can be hard. However, the worst thing you can do is project negativity onto each other because you miss each other so much. I am definitely guilty of this, especially when the long distance gets hard.
I have maintained a positive outlook by reminding myself that I have a fantastic life. Even though I don’t have my other half with me, I can still have a good time. The most important thing is to accept yourself and have self-love.
By having this type of attitude you can project this positivity into your relationship. It can be lonely or painful to not be with your significant other sometimes, but you do know you will see them again and it’ll be all worth it.
Hopefully, these tips will help you gain perspective for your love from a distance. Let me know in the comments if you have any extra tips that have helped you keep sane during a long distance relationship!
I have also included a video below that outlines the problems of long distance relationships and also provides extra advice.
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